Wife and mother Brenda Schmitz penned a letter to her husband two months before she lost her battle to ovarian cancer — a letter the late Mrs. Schmitz intended her husband to hear shortly before his second marriage.
“I am writing this letter to have sent to you by dear friend who has instructions to do so when it is the time,” read Colleen Kelly of Iowa’s “Big Ken and Colleen in the Morning” in an on-air interview with David Schmitz earlier this month.
“I told her, ‘Once my loving husband, David, had moved on in his life and met someone to share his life with again to mail this letter to all of you at the station,’” read Ms. Kelly, tears slowly streaming down Mr. Schmitz’s face.
“‘What a great husband an father he is; I know all of this is extremely hard on him. He is the one making the best decisions from here on out for my family and, ultimate[ly] finding a caring compassionate woman, in time, to help raise the boys. She must be quite a lady.’”
Children deserve a life with a mother — Mrs. Schmitz’s sons included.
“‘No child as young as Max should lose his mother, and it brings tears to my eyes now thinking of it,’” Mrs. Schmitz said of her youngest son. ”‘God, I will miss seeing him and the boys grow up to be fine men,’” Ms. Kelly read.
“‘I will miss all my boys; my favorite has always been the one standing in front of me.’”
Mrs. Schmitz wrote she wants her husband’s new wife to be honored with a weekend of pampering.
“Hair, makeup, body massage, clothes, shopping, spa or weekend getaway — whatever. She deserves it. Being a stepmother to all those boys and especially giving little Max a mother’s love that only she can give. Make her smile and know her efforts are truly appreciated for me. Perseverance will prevail. Thank you, I love you whoever you are. Talk to me if you are hurt.’”
For all of her family members, Mrs. Schmizt asked they spend quality time together.
“‘A magical trip somewhere where they all can enjoy their company and companionship as a family and create those memories that will be with them forever.’”
A night out filled with drinks and laughter is what Mrs. Schmitz prescribes for the medical team that cared for her during her illness.
“‘May God bless and keep all of you safe there. Thanks for this.’”
The letter, dated Aug. 3, 2011 and written the month before Mrs. Schmitz died of stage-IV-ovarian cancer, was signed “When you wish upon a star, Brenda.”