Aurora Starchild
Jane Fonda isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. She also doesn’t seem to care to depend on anyone else anymore. In an interview with Andy Cohen on Sirius XM, the icon swiftly and deftly answered a question about her sex life.
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“How would you characterize your sex life these days?” asks Cohen.
“Uh, private,” says Fonda.
“That’s a good answer,” affirms Cohen as Fonda interjects—
“Solo. Solo.” Fonda is beaming as she says this.
Cohen drills in a little more and asks Fonda if she thinks people get better at sex as they get older or if they tend to “lean into bad habits.”
“Oh, that’s such a good—well I—that’s a wonderful question to think about,” says Fonda. “Of course, it’s very much, it depends on the…”
“It depends on the person,” Cohen finishes.
“I think I got better,” Fonda reveals. “Women, I think, tend to get better because they lose their fear of saying what they need. We waste way too much time not wanting to say, ‘Wait a minute! Hold, hold, hold it, No no no. Slow down and a little to the left.’
“You know, we don’t want to do that. ‘Oh my god, it might offend—’ You know.
“But when we get older, it’s like, ‘No, I know what I want. Give me what I want.’”
Fonda has been open about her sex life for a long time.
Fonda once told Harper’s BAZAAR that she eventually realized that she tends to want to please men. But at the same time, she doesn’t think she’s truly capable of intimacy.
“Part of the reason I get into a relationship with a man is because I feel that he can take me down a new path,” she said. “I’m attracted to people who can teach me things and whose lives are different from mine, and so I give myself over to that. First of all, I want to please him. That’s a problem.”
Fonda mentioned her ex-husband and CNN founder Ted Turner, and how pleasing him meant learning his hobbies and dressing up sexy. She likened that marriage to “marrying 15 people.”
The actress and progressive activist then admitted that she came to a painful realization in her 80s. When asked how her definition of intimacy has changed, she said:
“What I’ve had to really think about is that I’m not really capable. It’s not them. It’s me. If a guy had come along and said, ‘Come on, Fonda, show up,’ I would have run away scared. I was attracted to men who never would have done that to me because they couldn’t necessarily show up themselves. I didn’t know that at the time, but now I know.”
