Man Really Wants To Name Baby After Late Wife, Current Wife Is Weirded Out

Naming a baby after a lost loved one is always a nice tribute, but a woman feels a little uncomfortable with her husband asking to name their new child after his late child and wife.

Posting on the Am I the A–hole Reddit, a woman has asked for a little advice. She’s about to have a new baby, but her husband has some odd naming ideas. Her 40-year-old husband has a child from a previous marriage. He lost his previous wife while she was in labor with his second daughter.

• While discussing baby names, the father suggested that they name the new child after his late wife and daughter. It’s a heartfelt tribute, and may help him cope with the trauma. But his wife feels weird about it. It’s only the middle name, but still.

A Disagreement: His wife, understandably, brought up her feelings about naming their baby after his late wife. “I didn’t disagree in front of my stepdaughter as I didn’t want to [hurt] her feelings, but then they tried to make a second middle name, which was the name of their late baby.”

• They fell out, and the argument blew up. It resulted in him feeling hurt, and her leaving the house to stay with her sisters. Now, she’s reaching out online to see if she’s out of line.

Maddening Misunderstanding

They have since spoken about it, but they are unable to see eye to eye. He’s insisting that because she chose the first name, he should choose the middle name. But, as she’s repeatedly explained, it’s more about the meaning for her.

• “He still didn’t understand and said that the names are important to him and that he really wants a part of them to still be in his life,” She explained on the Reddit thread. “I don’t know what to do. Multiple people have told me I’m wrong and that it’s important to him, and I should let him do it, but I don’t know.”

I think we can all see where she is coming from. Of course, the memory of his wife and daughter is special to him. But, in the same sentence, I am sure that his current wife doesn’t want to be reminded of his previous marriage with their daughter.