Stephanie Heath
A woman has sparked a heated online debate after sharing a personal story about her husband and herself. This mother of two opted to have life-changing surgery rather than prioritizing another child, an act which her husband deemed her selfish for.
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The Details: A 27-year-old woman shared her dilemma online in a Reddit post. In the post, she shared the following details.
- She is 27 years old and her husband is 31 years old.
- They already have two children.
- She used to weigh 260 pounds and is now down to 157 pounds after making a concerted effort to lose weight and adopt a healthier lifestyle.
So where is the discrepancy?
The issue arises because the woman is now self-conscious about her loose skin. Naturally, after significant weight loss, loose skin is often a typical result. Therefore, in an attempt to feel more confident in her body, the woman expressed a desire for surgery to help remove the excess skin.
Husband Calls Wife Selfish Over Her Desire To Have Life-Changing Surgery
You may wonder why her husband thinks it is selfish of her to want to feel her best. The answer is simple: he wants more children. In the post, the woman shared that her husband is adamant about having a third child, whereas she thinks it can wait.
- She writes, “He flipped out, saying he wanted another kid and told me I was selfish for choosing my surgery over his wish for another baby. I have two children, I’m not against the idea of having another, just not now. I told him this, and he said if we didn’t have another baby now, we would never have one.”
Clearly, there is some disagreement on the desire and timeline of having a third baby. Additionally, the woman shared that this was the first time her husband had brought up the desire to have another child. However, despite the disagreement, the woman shared that she still planned on having the surgery.
- “I told him I was sorry he felt that way, but I want to put myself first, and we can discuss adding to the family at a later date. It’s not a no, it’s a not right now. He stormed out, told his whole family that I am denying him another kid because I’m selfish and vain.”
The Internet Reacts
After the heated discussion, the woman shared her troubles on a Reddit post, asking the internet to chime in with their opinions. At the end of the day, she wanted to know if she was in the wrong. Fortunately for her, the overwhelming majority of people commented in her favor. Here are some of the comments left on the thread.
- “100% NTA. Listen, it’s your body, you are the one who has to carry another baby, not him. It’s your choice what you do and don’t do with yourself. No man should ever tell a woman what your husband said to you.”
- “NTA. Has he ever brought this up before? It seems crazy that he’s flipping out after just one conversation. Whatever happened to talking like adults and not throwing a tantrum when things don’t go your way?”
- “The way women are just expected (demanded) to sacrifice their bodies and mental health over and over and over again…..
- God forbid you try and take care of yourself! The idea that you are selfish makes me want to scream!”
