Why are some men generous while others are stingy? An interesting article titled “Why Men Need Women” in the New York Times recently claims the presence of females make males more generous.
The piece focuses on a recent study which traced generosity patterns in male corporate executives. Apparently, when executives become fathers, they typically begin to pay their employees less – presumably because they instinctually protect their new families by preserving resources. However, the study found that corporate executives who had daughters instead of bouncing baby boys did not decrease their employees’ salaries:
Daughters apparently soften fathers and evoke more caretaking tendencies. The speculation is that, as we brush our daughters’ hair and take them to dance classes, we become gentler, more empathetic and more others-oriented. For male chief executives, this daughter-driven-empathy spike may account for more generous impulses toward employees that temper the temptation toward wage cuts.
Additionally, the article explains Bill Gates became philanthropic sooner than he had planned because of the influence of his wife. Plus, the article claims boys who have sisters tend to be more empathetic.
Presumably, this is an interesting, feel-good article that makes us all happy that there are males and females who complement each other by playing their specific gender roles. But wait just one second.
Liberals tell us all the time that – as in a recent BuzzFeed article — that men and women are the same. This recent New York Times article, for example, claims, “Whether a family has one parent or two, and whether those parents are of opposite sexes or the same, doesn’t matter.” An NPR piece claims we’re finally experiencing the “end of gender.”
The piece tells us about parents who are raising their newborn, Storm, without telling anyone whether the baby is a boy or girl. They proudly announced the child’s birth by explaining, “We’ve decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime (a more progressive place?)” NPR points out that J. Crew advertised its products with a boy with pink toenail polish as further evidence that we’ve moved beyond the limitations of “male” and “female.”
Even the State Department now uses gender-neutral language on passports — using “Parent One” and “Parent Two” instead of father and mother. I saw these philosophies first-hand in college when I attended New York University and was taught — in their Women’s Studies classes – that gender is a “fake social construct” and that the only reasons boys play with trucks and girls play with dolls is because of “the patriarchy.” (In fact, if I was ever stuck on a test question, I knew if I blamed “the patriarchy” I’d almost certainly be correct.)
So, which is it, liberals? Are men and women the same? Or, as the New York Times article claims, are they so different that women’s mere presence increase levels of generosity in men?
Of course, normal people know the answer to this question. There are differences between men and women – we work together in complementary ways as irreplaceable partners. There’s something deeply negative about breaking up the male/female alliance – whether through divorce, death, or a society pretending away obvious distinctions.
But there’s a problem when the Left shoves nonsensical ideology down people’s throats.
They just can’t keep their story straight. The left says gender doesn’t matter, except when it does. And it only matters when women are better than men. (Can you imagine the outrage that would ensue over a New York Times article called “Why Women Need Men?”) We’ve been told countless times that “a woman needs a man as much as a fish needs a bicycle.”
But snarky analogies aside, it’s ironic that the self-described “reality-based community” embraces only those realities it finds comforting. Turns out, for all the Left’s elitism, they’re more like the rest of us than they might like to realize. After all, isn’t one of the central challenges of the human condition learning to see past your own prejudices to embrace uncomfortable truths?
But in the world of the New York Times, uncomfortable truths are for others to ponder. They’ve got it all figured out.
Nancy French is a New York Times best-selling author who lives in Tennessee. Follow her on Twitter @NancyAFrench.
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