Eva Longoria no longer wants to waste precious time and energy on jealousy. On her recent Connections podcast, the actress and Desperate Housewives star spoke with Chilean author and activist Isabel Allende about “Aging with Grace.” The conversation touched on the anxiety that can come with aging and how to rewire our thought processes to make getting older work for us rather than against us.
The two women shared some juicy bits of wisdom, agreeing that they had individually come to realize that aging forces you to make the most of the time that you have. But they also agreed that making the most of time means not wasting time on certain kinds of emotions and mind sets which can overwhelm you.
Allende had spoken to her writing and how it focuses on interpersonal relationships. She mentioned how people evolve and are always dealing with their own inner growth. The conversation circled to how she herself got married a third time at the age of 77.
“In our culture, the idea that old people can’t fall in love and let alone have sex is just appalling,” said Allende. “But that happens at any age. The only difference between falling in love when I was 50, or 20, and now, is that now I’m very aware of the passage of time. So, there is a sense of urgency. I don’t have any time to waste.”
Allende explained that her current husband and she are careful to not get sucked into petty arguments and emotions, including jealousy. She said that if she had been more deliberate with her energy when she was younger, she likely wouldn’t have divorced twice.
“I remember being so jealous” — Eva Longoria
“Jealousy takes up such an amount of energy,” Longoria told Allende. “I remember being so jealous. And like, your stomach is inside out—”
“Oh, it’s awful,” agreed Allende.
“It’s the worst feeling! Why would anybody want that feeling?”
Longoria said she had similar eye-opening realizations to Allende (and they also came with her third marriage). She said that when she found her current love, Pepe, she was determined to “just enjoy this life.”
But of course, Longoria is still human. Being deliberate doesn’t mean one becomes perfect.
“I mean, I do yell at him for the toothbrush or something like that still,” she quipped.